Death

It is a scary prospect and no one wants to deal with it but it is inevitable and the way everyone copes with it is different. Doubt anyone would want to talk about this topic but I have heard of two deaths in a span of three days and so thought would give this a shot.

The first one was my grandfathers friend. A man who had lived his life, and was in his last stages. He was at some point not happy with his life because he was living with his daughter and that is a big deal for that generation. My grandfather does not eat anything at his daughters houses, except the ones in the US because he has no choice. Given a choice he would not drink a glass of water either. To come back to this uncle, he had lived an independent life and did not like depending on anyone. Also his death was an easy one where even though he was sick he was still able to function normally and died in an instant with a heart attack. Talked to my grandfather about it and he joked about the death, claiming he is next.At that age, I guess you lose the fear of death and fighting for every last second.

The other person I am talking about is not dead but he is biding his time. He is my coworkers best pal and is in the last stages of cancer. He has a couple of days to go and is slowly losing his faculties. My colleague is not displaying his grief openly but I know it is affecting him deeply because this guy is his family. A friend of mine who considers this guy as his father on the other hand, is completely shook up and looked close to tears. One thing he said was, " I have never seen a  person die in front of my eyes" and that is exactly what is happening. This guy is slowly degenerating and I have no idea how his family and friends are dealing with it.

The first situation seems like a normal thing because he was old and was done with his life but that is not true, what about his family. I have grandparents who are old and I cannot imagine life without them. The second situation I do not want to even think about.The idea of someone dying in front of my eyes just petrifies me and I do not think I am strong enough to do it. I was told the strength comes from within and you learn how to deal with it but I do not think I want to. Death should come instant and easy because I cannot bear any of my near or dear ones suffering mentally or physically.