I am not a project

I don't claim to be perfect but I am not completely flawed. I am good at something and the rest I have faults. Most of the times I acknowledge these. Sometimes I try and correct them and sometimes I don't. This is personal and I do this internally. I understand that family and friends always want you to be a better person and advice is always welcome. Constant denigration is never welcome.

Certain people think its their sole aim in life to make me a better person which is the person in their mind. According to these people the way I talk in my Indian accent, the way I behave and the way I dress are all wrong. Now I understand that one has an opinion and can state it but I do not like the continuous remarks about my clothes or my language.

I have repeatedly told such people I am not a doll that one can dress up.  Someday I will go over the edge and tell them to mind their own business because it is getting to a point when I have stopped telling them or showing them anything because all I hear is this is crap and it will make you look fat.What to do, it is people I care about, cannot really tell them that I really appreciate their suggestions but that is it and also tell them that I am my own person and not a project to improve.